What you should know about relationships
There is a worthy saying that " Relationship(s) is a currency that can buy whatever money can buy and even more".
Relationships make up an integral part of life that anyone who has no relations tend to be lonely and and less productive.
Research have shown that persons who have valuable relationships in which genuine love and care is shown to them tend to live happier, healthier and longer lives compared to those who have none. It has also be shown that relationships help people to better cope with stress, pressure and challenges. It reduces the risk of depression and low self-esteem. Through relationships, you can enter territories and get favors you wouldn’t get even if you spent your whole life trying.
But the type of relationship you are in determines if you can enjoy the above benefits or even more. So the question is
Who is your friend?
Can you honestly say you have friends or a friend?
What kind of relationship exist between that person or those persons you call your friends?
An honest assessment and answer to the above question is what will get the ball rolling as we talk more on relationships.
A sad truth is many people have many "friends" but don’t have a friend!
They have a crowd all around them but no one be given the description "A FRIEND".
My friend Kelechi calls such persons "popular loner". There lives are enviable but honestly speaking,such lives are pitiable because they have no shoulder to lean on.
A healthy and productive relationship is a good nourishing ground for growth of any good habit,talent or gift. This kind of relationship is one in which both persons share mutual benefits and challenge one another to be better.its one in which when one partner is affected then both are affected. Such a person stick with you through your 'thick and your thin’,’ups and downs' and in your joy and sadness. Such persons are shoulders you can lean,cry on and even sleep on.
You just know you can count on them any time anywhere and in any circumstance. They aren’t embarrassed to call you friend and show you to their world. There are no secrets between you two because you have built intimacy to such an extent that a flaw in another is not a point of embarrassment but an issue of concern. When you can’t find yourself,they remind you of who you are and where you are headed.
Sometimes they can be annoying but that’s what makes it all beautiful.
Question!
Do you have persons or such a person in your life?
Are you in this kind of relationship?
Having someone I can talk to about personal issues,someone to cry on his or her should ,someone who tells me "it’s gonna be fine" when I’m in a mess someone who just listen to while I pour out my anger and frustration is one of the amazing thing I’ve enjoyed in relationship
Need I remind you that not everyone you interact with is your friend because not everyone of such persons like you or are even concerned about you. The truth is many persons despise you and wish you ill.
Piece of advice: Not every body around you should know you intimately .You must not share your visions, dreams, successes with just anybody. That can be very risky.
Friendship is the the most powerful kind of relationship I have ever known and that is why I am speaking about it intimately.
Other forms of relationships exist that you should be involved in if you want a productive and happy life
You must begin to cultivate relationships that are healthy and work towards maintaining them.
Some persons are good at starting relationships but what really make relationship is the ability to maintain them. Meanwhile others are very poor at starting relationships. In either case,we need people to survive enhance we must work towards making good friends.
When I talk about friends, It’s beyond your peers. Let’s look at it I this light;
1.Those much older than you.
2. Those in your age range.
3. Those younger than you.
The first category are those that have gone ahead. These are the ones that can see what you may not see. You can drink from their knowledge of experience and wisdom in many spheres of life. These are the ones that knows the way to the city- where you are headed. They may sometimes become helpful in terms of finance which of course is not the ultimate goal of the relationship.
The kind of relationship with your peers is sometimes the strongest if given the chance to grow. These persons have a common destination and share a bond that isn’t easily explainable. In some cases such relationships are stronger than family ties. These persons challenge you. They are bold to point out your mistakes to you because they want you to be better. They are just there when you need them.
The last category are those that wish you are to them what someone in the first category is to you. For these group you enjoy seeing them become better persons than even yourself. As you interact with them you appreciate the value of relationships and hold such person in to heart correcting them and helping them when necessary as you learn from them.
"Men are gifts well wrapped in relationships and until you unveil them, you can’t get the real package".
Relationships require a lot of work and energy to be put into them if they must mature. It’s a pretty hard work and you must be intentional,deliberate and diligent if you must make and keep good healthy relationships.
Like any good thing, they require time and resources!
